2015 Bixby Residential NHHS Media Scholarships Awarded

This is the 5th year I have awarded this scholarship, and my own kids are wondering if I’ll offer up a $1,000 homework assignment to them.  Maybe this wasn’t the best idea, I’m thinking.  The genesis for these scholarships lies in my own love of journalism, visual imagery, and story telling.  I wanted to reward students for expressing their creativity and challenging their intellect through writing, photography, and film.  And again this year, the winners impressed me.

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Congratulations to this year’s Newport Harbor High School awardees!

1st PRIZE FILM — Abbey Pickett

1st PRIZE JOURNALISM — Lila McElroy

1st PRIZE PHOTOGRAPHY — Devin Sandoval

I wish these fine scholars the best of luck as they head off to continue their creative pursuits at their respective universities this fall.

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1st Prize Journalism–2015 Bixby Residential Media Scholarship

The selection for Journalism wrote a refreshingly honest and vulnerable, yet simultaneously mature and objective view of how divorce affects children.   She will be studying Journalism at University of Missouri Columbia.  Congratulations, Lila McElroy.

Lila’s entry follows…

Divorce From a Child’s Perspective

It is normal to think that children with divorced parents had time to prepare for the inevitable misfortune, but this is not always the case. When my parents told me they were taking (what I thought was going to be) a short time off, I thought they were kidding. Sadly, the situation was far from funny.

As I go through this, I hear the same thing over and over again–‘there is no right way to react to this’ and ‘whatever you’re feeling is natural.’ These sentences just make me angrier and cause me to want to be left alone. But I have to admit: they are right. Whether you throw things, cry, or just go to sleep, let it happen and let your emotions leave your system. What I have noticed most about my close friends, who have gone through this as well, is that most people do not like to preach about their family struggles. According to The New York Times, about half of all kids from divorced families agreed that they had a harder childhood than most people. Half of the children in North America will see their parents go through a divorce, and will all be affected one way or another. Many kids that experience this keep all their emotions suppressed; I, unfortunately, do the same thing.

Keeping the feelings and thoughts in is the worst way to handle this, but is also what happens most of the time. In order to prevent these emotions from eating you alive, you should find a way to express them. It does not always have to be discussing these problems, because there are always other options. Use your imagination and be creative. If you like to draw, write, sing, or anything else you can think of, just do it. Release those feelings and to keep yourself from imploding with whatever you’re holding on to inside.

No matter what happens between parents, every child needs to know that they cannot blame themselves. This happens way too often in these situations. I always think to myself ‘what could I have done to prevent all this from happening?’ Sadly, there is nothing you can really do. This is between two adults that need to figure out, for themselves, what needs to be done in order to fix the situation with as little damage as possible.

I understand that all families are different and I cannot speak for all of them. But, I do understand how this can make a teenager feel. Some children see the split coming, and hope for it because they know it will make everything better. Others are blindsided and it causes their lives to crumble. No matter what the situation is, it can add on to a teen’s already stressful life. Every kid just needs to find someone, or something, that can get him or her through this rough time. Whether it’s a sibling, a friend, or a form of expression, there’s always something that will keep the child from slipping into sadness.

No child wants to be put in the middle of a divorce, but these things happen. I think people should try to make the best of the situation. Understand that no one is trying to hurt you, and parents need to look out for themselves, too. Take it day by day and find something important to focus on, such as schoolwork. Finally, always remember to give your parents a break, because seeing you cry hurts them more than you could ever know.

1st Prize Photography–2015 Bixby Residential Media Scholarship

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First prize for photography captured action with eye-popping clarity, a sense for dramatic and colorful composition, and with an alternative light source that draws attention to the subject and his seemingly impossible position.  This gentleman is headed to San Francisco State University.  For Tyler Skating, congratulations to Devin Sandoval.

Devin’s own words about this photo:

The photo that I have chosen to turn in is of one of my best friends Tyler Kirtley skating in Daly City. This was taken over spring break when a group of us had decided to take a road trip to San Francisco for four days. The location of this photo is at a Do It Yourself (DIY) skate spot inside of an apartment complex in the backyard. The only times you can go are between noon and six in the afternoon. It was all built by random people and graffiti is all over the place. I took this with my Canon 60D and a 24mm 2.8 fixed focal length lens. The ISO for this picture was at 100 since it was shot in the middle of the day and light was pretty harsh. I was excited because I had just bought and off camera Speedlite, it was my first time using it, and it was fun learning the distance and where I could make his shadow be. This will always be a sentimental photo for me because it was the first time going to San Francisco with only a group of friends and because it involves one of my best friends in my future home of San Francisco.